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As you grow, you come to
realize that socializing on a formal level is inescapable; you face a growing
frequency of attending events, meeting and greeting people, having small talk
either over a meal, a drink or at a cordial event.
For most people, the
execution of this is flawless, valiantly chatting away and mingling with people
they meet instantly as though they have been acquainted with these people for
years. I call these people social bugs. For others, we fail at this woefully
and end up sitting in the corner ALONE at events basically feeling that our presence
at the event is pointless. If you happen to be in this category, fear not! you are not alone. I won’t deny, I’ve faced this too.
Most days you might not be
bothered about such situations, probably because you find yourself out of place,
of which you might express no interest in the multitude of people you see there
and really can’t wait to be out of there. And on days when you don’t feel this
way, you itch so desperately to flow with the crowd, most especially when you
arrive at such places with friends who are social bugs that disappear into the
crowd almost immediately.
Well have no fear, I might
not be an expert but there are BASIC ways to handle these and of which you’d
slowly morph into the social bug yourself. Now these tips might come in handy
most especially at one of those events when you see a person you are
particularly interested in. YEAH!! That
person…
Here we go!
#1 YOU need to get YOU together.
At every point you find yourself
in life, know that you have to present yourself at your best because; trust
me, your story can and will impress someone enough to get them interested in
you. Clothing is a very important aspect to consider when your intentions are
to socialize. Make the effort to look good. The way you are dressed tells a lot
about you; strike a balance between what you are comfortable in and how
gorgeous you want to appear. If you intend to break the bank for this ONE
event, ask yourself if it’s worth it, also think of the next outing; you might
wanna “keep up appearances” and that might
mean breaking the bank AGAIN!!.
You need to always have a
pleasant pattern of introducing yourself to people. I highly recommend you come
up with an elevator pitch! Check out Devorah Zack’s book “Networking for People who Hate Networking” She does a great job in making this easy. Be sure to make
your introduction concise, precise and engaging. Make references on certain
things you feel might arouse curiosity in your audience; I.e sight examples and
try to talk in simple terms. Avoid self-exaltation.
#3 Smile and Be
approachable.
Your countenance and
mannerism, you might want to keep this in check. A smile is the only valuable
jewelry everyone can afford to give; it’s so valuable its price-less. Remember you
are there to socialize, of which there may be a lot of socializing already going
on. No one would want to waste time on a person that looks frustrated, moody
and uninterested in their current environment. Appear friendly and try to hold
up that smile (not awkwardly of course).
Avoid folding your hands as
this repels potential company. There is no concrete in your shoes so feel free
to walk around, try not be rooted in a particular position for too long, mingle
and remember you have nothing to lose so you might as well get to it.
You might come across people
who stare at you as you walk on by, don’t be alarmed by this; it’s a casual
behavior at these things. So if they are within arm’s length you can let your
smile shine :D and you might just push further and say “HI”.
There you have it. Keep
those three tips in mind and practice them and you’ll be amazed at the result.
Also, be mindful of the events you attend. Be sure to plan well; knowing the location is of importance, have the
timing sorted out, how you intend to get there and an effective exit strategy.
Be sure that the event of interest to you, this helps in setting the mood almost
entirely. Imagine a chef forced to attend an event for make-up artistes and
bankers; he/she might not be overtly interested to begin with and might end up
not having a good time. Hence the underlining factor for socializing Is Interest,
if you are enthusiastic about it you might as well enjoy it.
Thanks for reading.
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